Oh, Aja, Aja, for shame.

[heidi]

I don't have much time for this now, as I'm off to spend some dinner time with my family, but I have to quickly reply to Aja's post here.

And I want to make it clear that I am not replying to any of hte things that have nothing to do with me, things I heard about second or third hand from parties on both sides of the issue. And this is not necessarily an "I'm never ever speaking to you again, Aja," post because while I'm furious as hell with you now, I just don't understand why you dragged me into this, and I'm willing to think it was just a momentary abbarition.

But Aja, you of all people should know how I hate to be dragged into public kerfulffles. When Stacey quit FA last year, she did it with as much public dignity as she possibly could - she had the technical ability to delete tonnes of posts and accounts, to take away everyone else's mod privileges, basically do anything short of effing around with the domain name, and she didn't. She didn't slam anybody publicly last August when she quit - she just walked away, which is something that, although it devestated me emotionally at the time, she had all the right to do. And while I was furious with her for misconstruing things left and right, and I know Cassie was upset and angry as well, we kept it private because at that time, we thought that no good would come of making a public slam out of it.

Aja, you should've had the grace and dignity to tell me that you were about to make a post that involved/discussed/dissected me before you made it - I had to find out from a passel of YMs and a number of emails that you'd set me right in the middle of this wank.

Why the hell did you do that?

God, I don't even know if I want you to answer me publicly or in an email but seeing as you've made it all totally public now anyway, there's no way for me to change that. Are you going to go and edit your post now? Don't even bother - this post won't make any sense if you do.

You know, your post would've hung together just as well without any mention of me. Why couldn't you leave well enough alone?

Edited to add: After I'd already left the house, Aja went through and removed my name, and others', from her post, which was the right thing to do. I thought about making this post private, or a very tight friendslock (i.e. to those who have my LJ password anyway) and I may still do so - since I've never been involved in a personal wank-battle like this before, I'm not really sure what it is I'm supposed to do. Every kerfulffle I've been involved with before has to do with FA or Nimbus or something else that's "professional", not personal. Strange, innit?

Well, I hope that now that Aja's posted this, she can put it in the past and not explode about it anymore...

Comments

[ladylisse.livejournal.com]

I have nothing constructive to add, so I'll just be an echo. *hugs*

[heidi8.livejournal.com]

And if, later on, you feel bad for deliberately pointing towards Aja's entry then you'll probably feel the same way she does.

Erm. Huh?

When I posted this, and the link to Aja's LJ, my name was all over that post she'd made. And that's why I linked to it. Would it have made sense, otherwise?

I'm not sure what I should feel bad about. Being pissed at her for discussing things I'd told her in confidence, publicly? Or something else?

I'm not trying to sound antagonistic towards you here - I'm just kind of confused.

[pixielore.livejournal.com]

*hugsss*

Have a nice dinner

and if you by any chance have any cheesecake left over I think I may have some room in the fridge...

[sugarjet03.livejournal.com]

*hugs*

~Erin

[til-midnight.livejournal.com]

::hugs:: I feel for everyone who is getting hurt by these kernuffles. Fandom should be fun. So enjoy your dinner, enjoy the time with your family, and enjoy the cheesecake I heard mentioned above. And if there is anything I can do beside offering hugs, let me know.

[dragongirlg.livejournal.com]

*sigh* *hugs*

[megd.livejournal.com]

I think it's about time we all took some fandom vacation time. Everyone should go sit in a corner by yourself and chill.

*hugs to Heidi*

-Meg

[chinawolf.livejournal.com]

*headdesks* Didn't get to see the original post, but you know my take on things.

Anything I can do, just email or text me.

Ummm....SORRY

[(Anonymous)]

I have to agree with Aja... Stacy is a psycho. She should get arrested for stalking. From what I have read, and if it is true, Stacy needs some serious help. Just because someone has the same friends as you is NO excuse to stalk them and ruin their life like that. I read some of Stacy's posts on her live journal and she sounds like she is insane. Has she nothing better to do than call Aja a twat or insult her in every other post? She is FUCKED UP and so are you if you think she has any dignity.

Re: Ummm....SORRY

[heidi8.livejournal.com]

She is FUCKED UP and so are you if you think she has any dignity.

Hi! You can come to my LJ and call me fucked up if you want but honestly, in comparison to what happened on GryffindorTower when some of the admins there got pissed at other admins, Stacey certainly took the sensible route when she quit FA.

[erised1810.livejournal.com]

{{{hugs}} OK you might be somewhat smothere by now but
nevertheles...welll....meh! Can't say much about this sinceI'm
a slight newbie and and have only head random sentences
like "The fandom is tense" or felt some bad vibes frm the
june-21 debacle so...well.....blah. I isn't likign it one bit whe npeople are mad.
Let's try something new. Let's invent fizzy pumpkin juice. :)

[orangewatcher.livejournal.com]

I don't know if this means much, but >:D<

You can weather this, you're strong.

[themorningstarr.livejournal.com]

Well, as I tend to be pretty unaware of anything that goes on outside of my own little corner of the fandom, you seem upset, and for that I leave a *hug*

I can also have Draco hex someone if you need him to. He's usually happy to get the practice. ;)

[heidi8.livejournal.com]

Only the mosquitoes that were out at the picnic I went to with the cheesecakes this evening. Avada the blasted things.

I need to wander back to your LJ and reread your law school applications post...

[resmiranda.livejournal.com]

...

Yeah...

...

>__

[hydy.livejournal.com]

*sigh* You guys are doing this again. You're making this whole mess public, just like the thing with Sinead. Now everyone's going to read your post and try to get involved, and it would be bigger than it must be. I'm a bit disappointed that you didn't have the grace to not repond to a ridiculous, public post with a ridiculous, public post in return. Now there will be some sort of net-riot because everyone in the fandom will want to say something, and then to each other, then take sides, then shout...and you people that started it will be sitting there comparing who has more supporters.

This is deeply stupid.

[heidi8.livejournal.com]

Actually, the Sinead stuff has never been made truly public - there was a bit, I guess, when she showed up in HpfGU chats and Stacey chewed her ears off, but I don't think that anyone really posted about it extensively in public at all, either when it happened or later.

I really don't want to cause a riot - but really, Aja's already posted her wanks this week over on Fandom_Wank, this rant had already been written up there, and there was no way people were going to glance over my name in her post and not turn it into a bit of a thing. It's why I told her not to bother to edit my name out of it - as it was in there once, it would never truly be erasable, even after she'd edited it...

[tanithdevika.livejournal.com]

That sucks horribly.. A few months ago, a 'friend' of mine posted a huge long post on LJ about how she hated my best friend, and how he never wanted to hang out wiht her or anything, and how he lied and she never said anything behind his back (she did.. a lot) and she never told secrets (oh did she tell us secrets)... Yeah. So I biked over to his house with my other friend (who, by odd coincedent, was sleeping over that night) and we went for a walk. It was a nice walk, very meaningful, and I'll never forget it. If I knew you in real life (it'd also help to know you online..), I would go over and give you a hug, cause I know how it feels to be betrayed. I empathize, empathy makes me cry, I hate it. Heh.. Then after the walk, me and my friend who slept over wrote a huge long post in my lj in response to hers... hehe... I felt good.

Um... Getting to the point here....

*********HUGS*********

*hugs*

[alyeska.livejournal.com]

*hugs* Sorry this has all been dredged up again and that you have to deal with it. I wish people would just let things go and move on.

*sigh*

Re: *hugs*

[heidi8.livejournal.com]

Remember back during Monicagate, when MoveOn.org started up with "Censure and Move On" - i.e. get back to governing the country and stop talking about blow jobs?

I think we need that here.

[dinahrae.livejournal.com]

*adds more hugs, even though they don't help* Maybe some ice-cream? At least it's a valid distraction technique.

[ex-mahoney365.livejournal.com]

Wow.

*hugs*

[rachet.livejournal.com]

:-(

I hope you had a great dinner last night, besides.

[quidditchgrrl.livejournal.com]

*cringe* Yikes, Heidi.

Hopefully this'll be recognized for what it is, and blow over soon. >.

[(Anonymous)]

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[(Anonymous)]

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