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[heidi]

Hi all!

I've been asked to make another PSA. People, please don't go onto Christina's LJ (sapphsmum) and make posts there calling her a liar and wishing for an unhappy ending to her tale. I haven't seen such posts there, but I know a few posts have been screened, so that may be why I can't see them.

Personally, here's my take on this - I believe that she has been suffering from a rare form of cancer that impacts her salivary glands. I also believe that having COBRA is a good thing for everyone who's in remission from cancer, or recovering from any other severe illness, and that is why I linked to her LJ post about her situation. I don't know enough about the gastric bypass issue that she's posted about on her LJ and her 4Christina.org website to make any judgment about it, and this LJ isn't really the place to debate the merits of it either. I don't know anything about Illinois' laws on nonprofits, but I do know that a fund to support an individual cannot get federal 501(c)(3) status. That doesn't mean that funds to support individuals don't have the potential to be helpful, beneficial and all sorts of other good stuff - it just means you can't deduct the sum you donate when you file your federal taxes. And that is one reason why many in the US prefer to donate via 501(c)(3)'s - because the government gives you a little pat on the back for your contribution.

I don't really know what else to say at this point. It's horribly frustrating to be lied about online, but I'm used to it - people have been doing it for coming on four years, so it's a bit old hat for me. When I was in the hospital almost two years ago, I was still the subject of some posts on the LJ version of fandom wank and I don't think there was a big outpouring of wibbling about the fact that I wasn't around to reply. I think it's positive that people care so much about Christina, and I hope that spirit of generosity and understanding isn't limited to just her - I'm not asking for myself, but in a sort of general way going forward.

And yes, I do know that by posting this, it might very well start all sorts of "Heidi is an evil beeyotch!" posts again, but nothing will prevent that. So why bother trying to try?

ETA: And it did! Huge surprise there. Anyone who's just wandering past, please, read my LJ before you say something stupid like "Heidi refused to help sapphsmum!" because it's just untrue. If you're going to criticize me, base it on facts, not what you may've read fourth-hand on some other journal.

Comments

[wcspegasus.livejournal.com]

*hugs* I've just been shaking my head over this whole mess.

*hugs again*

Take care of the bebe.

[february-sea.livejournal.com]

I think you're taking the high road, here: You are doing what you can without doing anything that would make you (and anyone in the same position, really) feel uncomfortable.

A tricky balance, at the best of times, and gracefully managed.

Blessed be,
Olivia

[arakne.livejournal.com]

This whole thing is so messy and baffling to me. *pats*

[prettyveela.livejournal.com]

Icon love :P

Thanks for posting that Heidi. Go get some rest!

[kiwiria.livejournal.com]

I'm just really amazed this got so big in the first place. There was no need to, and it probably wouldn't have happened if F_W hadn't got their hands on it.

*sigh* The world is a sad place to be sometimes.

[rookie131.livejournal.com]

Aw, Heidi. I would love to tell you to just ignore the terrible comments, but I know it isn't that easy. I know that I have witnessed your generosity on more than one occasion. If you wouldn't value these people's opinions on other topics, please don't take it to heart on this one.

Take care.

Shay

[p-tripp.livejournal.com]

Just passing by, friend of a friend!

This whole wank just sucks. It really does. I think, as with most wanks, there was a HUGE misunderstanding as well as miscommunication and you and sapphsmum got caught in the middle.

While I don't know you, I certainly don't think you're an "evil beeyotch!" ;)


Hope you don't mind, just wanted to comment. :D

[(Anonymous)]

Hi! You don't know me, I don't know you, and I got here from F_W.
But I wanted to say you seem like a very nice person who is only trying to do good with the best of intentions, and all this wank resulted from a simple misunderstanding. I'm sorry that there are heartless, horrid people on both sides spitting on you, and each other, over something that you and Christina have already resolved. To anyone with a brain, your good intentions are obvious. Best wishes to you and yours, and I hope this doesn't deter you from "pimping charitable cuases" in the future.

Mouse #175

[heidi8.livejournal.com]

If it wasn't me, it would've been ignored, or at least people would've reported it for what it was - a misunderstanding. But there have been so many at this point, I read these summaries on other people's LJs - people I don't know from a bar of soap - and the story, fourth-hand, has so little to so with what actually happened. And what I find most amusing is the people who say "a fanfic author" (as if I was one, which I'm not anymore, not really) and link to my LJ and then claim they're taking the high road by not mentioning my name.

: facepalms

[heidi8.livejournal.com]

SO appreciate it!

[heidi8.livejournal.com]

Thanks, I appreciate it.

[heidi8.livejournal.com]

I've given some serious thought to causes, and I think going forward, no matter what, while I'll still be very happy to pimp help/aid/assistence communities here on LJ, as well as fundraisers for or by actual entities (like the DanRadcliffe.com and The-Leaky-Cauldron.org ones, which I have pluged, support and actually (in the past, although I won't be helping with the DR.com one this year) assist with the organization of) I think that's going to be it for me in terms of public posting.

Thanks for the post, btw. It's v appreciated.